Child psychologists explain Trump's immature attack on Taylor Swift

On Friday, President Donald Trump published the following statement about Popstar Taylor Swift on Truth: “Has anyone noticed since I said:” I hate Taylor Swift “, is she no longer” hot “?”

Yes, you read that properly. Instead of spending his time to concentrate on international relationships, the health of the country, or, as I do not know, Trump has published Trump about the “lack of Höten” of a pop star.

(Swift is still hot for the recording and still decides one of the largest celebrities in the world.)

His contribution is problematic in an countless way, but it is also very, very immature. In fact, therapists who see children and adolescents said Huffpost that it was an explanation that they would expect from one of their young customers, not from an almost 79-year-old man, it would be surprising.

“The tone and the content of the contribution resembles childish behavior – impulsive, unprovoked and missing fundamental decency; even this comparison can be unfair to children,” said Samantha Rhoads, a marriage and family therapist at the therapy group in Pennsylvania, opposite Huffpost via e -Mail.

The White House did not answer immediately when Huffpost asked whether it agreed to analyze the therapists. And three therapists agreed that Trump's post was Really immature. Here is the reason:

Unfortunately, it is common for every young girl to make fun of the boys in their class. This was previously seen as a playful joke, but it is now to be seen for what it is – toxic.

“[Trump’s post] Evozed the problematic “boys” will be a boys' narrative who are used historically to apologize at the expense of the dignity and limits of girls, “said Rhoads.

“I think this is also very much in sexism that is rooted in patriarchy. It is rooted in objectifying women, young women,” said Manahil Riaz, a psychotherapist in Texas and owner of Riaz Counseling.

“He mocks them. He reduces it. He does not talk about the way she sings-it could be different or better or better or what I prefer just chooses something superficial. Just because I say that they are no longer attractive or popular means the truth, and that's not true,” added Riaz.

“It increases the message that the value of women is to be” hot “and that men can decide when this status is revoked. This is poisonous, not funny,” Haley Shehan, a marriage and family therapist at the therapy group in Pennsylvania, added, said Huffpost via e -Mail.

“Let me emphasize that I don't think he thought about it a few times before clicking on the mail,” said Riaz. Instead of thinking about his feelings, what an adult is expected, she said instead impulsively, she said.

“The President of the United States should also be held accountable to check for himself before posting something because he is the president. He is in power that people will listen to him. So it would be good if he could think about what he says. And I don't think that is what happens,” said Riaz.

To be impulsive is also a sign of immature and is often seen in children.

“As a therapist who works with children, I hear many emotionally impulsiveHe is no longer hot because I said it. “ Said Shehan.

“Trump's comment on Taylor Swift reflects a striking lack of emotional ripeness,” added Sheehan.

“It sounds more like something you would hear in a schoolyard than from a public, worldwide leader. There are 'wEll, I didn't want to be invited to your birthday party anyway! “She continued.

There is a name in therapy for this type of classic defense mechanism used by children.

“In therapy we call that Protective puffing – If someone feels unsafe, rejected or powerless, they try to regain control by insulting or devaluing the other person, ”said Sheehan.

“Children do it when they feel excluded. Adults should grow out,” she added.

“Instead of processing the emotions, Trump strikes in the most youthful way that reduces a successful, powerful woman to her appearance and then explains that she is only attractive if He approved, ”noted Sheehan.

It is normal to be self -centered and to believe that everyone agreed with them when they are a child, but we should grow out in adulthood.

“I honestly think he thought Oh, if I put it out there, I will get nothing than: “Yes, I think so too.'And that is very self -centered thinking … what is very healthy and normal when developing, but if we are older, it is something that stands in the way of relationships, “said Riaz.

“From the age of around 2 to 7 years, children have problems seeing perspectives of others. So if they play Peek-A-Boo, the child believes that it has disappeared because their eyes are closed,” said Riaz.

“And so the next step is teenage hood, there is a social aspect – whatever I think everyone thinks when I go into the room, the reality of everyone begins,” she said.

In your teenagers, you have the feeling that you have an imaginary audience in which everyone observes and judges you, added Riaz.

“Whatever I have, maybe I want to say it loudly because I have it in my head and everyone is in my head,” she added.

“There is a lot of group molts in this rhetoric … So one person is responsible, and we just follow the example,” said Riaz.

“If he says it, it has to be true, is it true in high school – a person explains it and everyone follows, and if you try to say:” No, that's not right. We shouldn't harass this child, “then they fear that they also fear that they will be astritting,” said Riaz.

In this example of Grouptionhink, Trump believes that because he thinks in a certain way, she also adds that everyone else does this. “Young people think so … this idea of ​​'now because I don't like them, maybe not everyone else.' And that's not true.

And since Trump is at the top of the hierarchy, people don't ask him why he talks about Swift when there are big problems in the world, she noticed because the questioner may be thrown out of the group.

“The only people who survive in such circles are also group gardens,” Riaz remarked.

“Although ethically disturbing, Trump often relies on 'anger bait', but [which are] Provocative behaviors that are designed to draw attention and monopolize attention, ”said Rhoads.

“As a therapist, I often encounter children who are described as” disruptive “when they are actually looking for connections and attention – even through negative means,” she added.

“The main difference … is that in contrast to a child, Trump is a fully developed adult and is aware of the social norms that he intentionally violates,” added Rhoads.

“This is a form of public, verbal bullying,” said Sheehan. “If someone tries to tear down someone with a huge platform by mocking or worth it to humble or devaluing them in a way. It is bullying. It is not a political silent, it is not a satire – it is a sexistic personal attack.”

“This type of comment clearly borders on bullying because it tries to humiliate and reduce another person,” said Rhads.

“To measure its effects, take the following into account: If your child returned home and shared that a colleague called her less attractive, you would see it as cruel and unacceptable. The same standard should apply here,” Rhoads continued.

“When public characters model this kind of behavior, it normalizes emotional immaturity and public bullying – especially for women,” added Sheehan.

In children, it is known that bullying achieves negative psychological health results such as anxiety, depression and loss of interest in their regular activities. While Swift will probably be able to wipe this attack, Trump's behavior is still excuse for bullying, Riaz remarked.

“This would never work in a restaurant or in a school, but somehow it works at the national level and normalizes bullying,” added Riaz.

In addition, bullying says more about the bully than the victim.

“Let us be clear: Taylor Swift is no less powerful, beautiful or relevant because a president said a little petty. If at all, it says more about it about it be Fragility as your status. Let us think adult standards – especially when you speak into the world, ”said Sheehan.